Law of attraction and conscious parenting, what is it and why should you care?
What if I told you that you are responsible for your day, and that you can actually make it a great day? As parents we project the energy and set the stage for our day and for our children, so it’s important we find ways to be positive. Not just for our own sanity, but to help foster a healthy relationship with our children.
I’m sure some of you are rolling your eyes reading this, especially after you’ve attempted to drink your 5th cup of cold coffee, running on 3 hours of sleep, and you are listening to your kids fighting over one toy! I know, I get it! You can’t just say, “today will be great!” and magically it will make your day better, especially with a screaming toddler. But before you move on, let me explain to you more about what it is and how you can use law of attraction and conscious parenting to actually change your day, and the day’s ahead.
Many have heard of law of attraction, but have you ever tried using it? Attracting what you want, may sound silly, but it is true. I want you to sit down, clear your mind and think about what is important to you. Apply it to your relationship with your children: “I want to be able to talk to my children”, “I want to be able to get out the door without a crazy fight”. Well wait – right there you already are assuming you won’t be able to talk to your children and that there will be a crazy fight! That is projecting and attracting. Did you know that that’s law of attraction? When you assume there will be a crazy fight, or there will be issues with your kids, it is actually attracting it to happen. It’s so easy to assume the worst, and that is why I want parents to read about law of attraction and conscious parenting because there are ways to make things easier. However, it isn’t that easy, it really takes a lot to get our mindset to change.
So what can you do differently? Try saying what you love about your kids, what are the positives in your life, what are you thankful for? When you’re planning your day what do you want to happen? Don’t get into the mini details right away, but set the stage for what matters most to you. “I want to hear my kids laughing.” “I want them to be excited about school.” “I want to sing our favorite songs together.” “I love when my kids tell me a joke and crack me up!”
Great, that is a start! Now how does conscious parenting get in the mix and why is it so important? Being conscious can be complicated because we often think we are living in the moment, but who’s moment? Are you still thinking about how you are tired, how you were up all night because your kid couldn’t sleep? What about your kids? How are they feeling this morning? Did your 2-year-old sleep ok (why do you think they didn’t)? Did your child try showing you something that was special to him, like a drawing, and you didn’t realize because your eyes weren’t even open yet? Did your oldest tell you about the shirt they picked out, did you acknowledge? How do you think that makes them feel? When you are conscious you are aware of what your child is saying, and how they are feeling, what is going on with them.
Try thinking about the issue from their perspective, not yours. Why do you think it is stressful to get out the door each morning? Maybe they need help putting on their socks, or maybe they really wanted a certain pair of socks to go with that amazing shirt they found? Taking that all into consideration and connecting with your child in that moment will change everything. Get on their level and talk, you don’t have to yell, but if you’re across the room trying to tell them to do something, it is no wonder they aren’t listening! Go over to them and calmly talk to them so you’re face to face, CONNECT with them. Being a conscious parent is taking that extra step and thinking of how your children feel, how they are processing things, and making sure you are on their level when communicating.
Connection is so important, and although they are our children, that doesn’t make them less smart or make their feelings less important than ours. You might think that sounds harsh, but you can come across that way when we are yelling at them for not doing what we want at that moment. Sometimes we need to stop thinking about ourselves and stop projecting negativity. Focus on their feelings and connect with them, go slow take it step by step. It is so easy for our emotions and frustration to overpower and attract negativity.
Now trust me I am not perfect and I still have a lot of work to do when it comes to attracting positivity, especially when I am having a moment, but that’s ok! We all need to take a break and hit the refresh button. So here are some starters that help me out when I need a boost. Make a list; write down what you are thankful for, write down all of the amazing qualities your children have, write down what you love most about being with them. Now, say it all out loud!
Recognize that they wont be this young forever, things will change, and you want to enjoy as much of it as possible. So when things start to get heated, give yourself a time out. Take a breather and focus on the situation from their eyes and start attracting good. Trust me it will work!